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"People who are happy and filled with joy get a ton more accomplished than people who aren’t."

A thought by Bob Goff in his book,  Undistracted   (p. 40). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) Now that is good to know. Bob continues, "It’s true, and the only ones who can’t see this are usually the unhappy ones." He goes on, "If you choose happiness and joy, then kindness and empathy and engagement are the outcomes. If joy is going on inside of us, everyone will know because it will be expressed outwardly as kindness and caring and action in your life. You’ll be nicer, and trust me when I say this is what the earth needs more of. Why am I telling you to be nice in a book about distraction? The primary reason is because people who aren’t nice distract everyone around them. You know it’s true, and if you are one of the not-nice people, you are in fact banking on this cause and effect. We are not going to get to the important, courageous, purposeful work of being the most priceless versions of ourselves if we aren’t

"The days are long, but the years are short."

A thought by Bob Goff in his book,  Undistracted   (p. 38). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) Now, that is a great way to put it. Bob continues, "If you fill your days with trivial stuff, you will look up one day and a year or a decade or a half-century will have passed. Don’t wait until you are old to ask yourself: What have I done with all that time? Why not ask yourself right now? What am I going to do with all the time ahead of me? What do you want your answer to be? Once you decide what you want the future to look like, make a couple of moves like your life is actually yours to live—because it is. Quit the job, call the friend, make the apology, launch the dream, take the shot . . . heaven is just hoping we will." He says, "I’ve spent some time exploring the branches on my family tree, and it turns out that most Goff men come from the factory like a windup toy with only a certain number of turns. We’re Energi

"Most of us never decide to be happy."

A thought by Bob Goff in his book,  Undistracted   (p. 36). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) Now that is interesting but maybe not surprising. Bob continues, "I bet most of us think 'happy' is a result of other choices, but that’s not all of it. Sure, circumstances can be truly awful, but feeling happy is a choice just like any other. It’s not that we don’t want to be happy; we just get distracted by so many unhappy things that we never get back around to happiness. Perhaps we think we need an invitation or permission to be happy. And what if we want happy feelings to transition into a deep and abiding joy with a longer shelf life? He says, "Consider this. In stark contrast to our complicated decision tree, a child makes less than 10 percent of the decisions adults make each day. Maybe one of the benefits of the childlike faith Jesus said we need is that there are fewer decisions to make, and hence, fewer distra

"Look for virtues, not flaws, in the people around you, and you will find a beautiful path forward in your life."

A thought by Bob Goff in his book,  Undistracted   (p. 31). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) Very good idea. Bob continues his thought, "Modern-day cynics don’t roll this way. It seems like they always wake up on the wrong side of the bed. They are like snipers, but they are far from courageous. They elevate themselves, then camouflage their positions. They hide in the lofty places they construct, then take potshots at the people they want to exert control over. If you don’t agree with them or don’t yield to their opinions, you become a target yourself.  . . If you play the cynic, please stop, for your sake and ours. I know you think you are being helpful, but the hard truth is, you are not. You may not realize it, but you are a distraction." Bob says, "I don’t think this is an overstatement: Modern-day cynicism has likely cost the world hearts, lives, cures for diseases, and trillions of dollars. It has also ruine

"We expend so much energy trying to feel secure and hide any sense we are afraid."

A thought by Bob Goff in his book,  Undistracted   (p. 27). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) Is that true of you? Bob says, "We construct walls and put up our bulletproof glass so nothing can hurt us. Sadly, we can spend our entire lives constructing a façade of security and safety, when inside we are just scared people in need of a friend." He continues, "Do you need the courage to admit, even now, that you have been pretending to be something you are not? Are you a prisoner needing space to get real? Have you been distracted by your need to never seem weak or afraid or vulnerable? Are you spending weird amounts of time trying to control the people around you because your life on the inside is out of control? How much energy is that taking out of you—energy you could pour into something bigger and more beautiful than your insecurities?" He goes on, "We’re all inwardly insecure to some degree. What shroud

"A life without reflection is like a vapor."

A thought by Bob Goff in his book,  Undistracted   (p. 20). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) This is so important to realize. Bob says, "Socrates said an unexamined life isn’t worth living. I don’t agree that such a life is not worth living, but I would concede we are prone to forgetting about self-reflection. If you have young kids or a stressful job, you especially know how hard life can be. Some days you crash into bed exhausted, just to get up and do it again . . . and again . . . and again. String together enough days like that, and you’ll look up someday wondering where the years have gone. Don’t get sucked into that trap. Write down all of the lessons you learned from each day. A life without reflection is like a vapor." He continues, "James, the brother of Jesus, said in one of his letters that none of us knows what will happen tomorrow. He said our lives are like a mist that appears for a little while and

"If you don’t net those butterflies immediately, I promise they will fly away."

A thought by Bob Goff in his book,  Undistracted   (p. 18). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) That is so true, so true. Bob continues that thought, "Take notes while you read this or any other book. Write down how you are going to apply the parts that make sense to you. If you don’t net those butterflies immediately, I promise they will fly away. Do this, then study and refine those notes, and you will find connections between the ideas you have scribbled down in the middle of the conversation and ones you had in other conversations. You will capture meaningful, partially developed, and applicable ideas you can incorporate into your life. As you use what you have written down, they will create a feedback loop as they evolve into fuller, more complete ideas. If you don’t take the time to capture and process your interior world, you will miss the opportunity to discover something bigger and more beautiful in your heart."

"... I’ve been telling myself that I want to be the guy who’s available."

A thought by Bob Goff in his book,  Undistracted   (p. 17). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) That is important to him, and it really makes a difference in people's lives. He continues, "That’s why I put my cell phone number in the back of more than a million of my books. From the outside looking in, that probably looks like a move that would wreck any kind of productivity in my life. That’s true, I suppose, if you’re only trying to live an efficient, productive life. But I’m not, and here’s why. We will be known for our opinions but remembered for the love we gave to everyone around us. If I have my head down over a project and can’t be bothered to shift focus, I’ll miss a good chance to show love and grace to the person next to me—and that’s not the life I want to live. Receiving a truly ridiculous number of telephone calls each day is a great reminder of who I want to be. These don’t feel like interruptions; they are r

"We can all be new creations if we want to be."

  A thought by Bob Goff in his book,  Undistracted   (p. 13). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) It's hard to believe but it's true. Bob continues this thought, "The cold hard truth is most people don’t. We settle for the safe and distracted life we know rather than the one God has promised is available to us. Sure, we can agree that Jesus wants us to be new creations, but if we keep doing what we’ve always done, we’ve got to admit there’s nothing new about it. A total reset isn’t easy, and it involves risk. Maybe an enormous tragedy or loss causes us to reset. Or a reset might be the result of making time to clear our minds in the morning. Find a new rhythm for your heart. Here is my simple suggestion: Decide in advance that you will do whatever it takes to get your heart right, and then do it—even if it will kill all previous versions of you." He says, "You need to ask yourself what makes your heart beat in

"There is a lot of second-best available to all of us."

A thought by Bob Goff in his book,  Undistracted   (p. 6). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) And we don't really like second best, do we? Bob says, "Let’s be honest with each other. There is a lot of second-best available to all of us. If we aren’t aware of the alternatives, we won’t realize we are settling for less than what is accessible to us. This book won’t tell you what to think or what to do, but I hope it reminds you about who you already are. You are someone who has permission to live with an unreasonable, unthinkable, totally absurd amount of focus, purpose, joy, and fulfillment." He continues, "Here are a few questions I have for you as we begin this journey. Are you willing to do what it takes to uncover the wonder that already surrounds your life? Will you do the courageous work to identify what is distracting you from the better things? And finally, are you willing to do the difficult and selfless

"In truth, we are all trying to build the airplane while flying it—figuring it out as we go."

A thought by Bob Goff in his book,  Undistracted   (p. 5). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) He says, "We arrive as babies, placed in the arms of parents who are complete amateurs with no owner’s manual and usually no clue how to raise us. Most of us start broke or broken, and some of us stay that way. Some strike it rich but then accumulate a distorted view of their wealth; still others never find healing in their search for wholeness. Add to this that we’re following a God we can’t see, for a lifetime we can’t measure, to a heaven we can’t comprehend, because of grace we didn’t earn. Again, is it any wonder we’re all a little muddled?" He continues, " In truth, we are all trying to build the airplane while flying it—figuring it out as we go. This means more off-ramps than on-ramps, more chances for confusion than certainty, and more ambiguity than clarity. In a word, much of life can leave us feeling completely,

"You and I need to recognize the signs that we are becoming distracted."

A thought by Bob Goff in his book, Undistracted   (p. 2). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) That is possibly true. Bob continues, "While we might notice our minds wandering, we also need to look at the meandering nature of our activities. Rather than making decisions consistent with who God says we are, we might be acting like the person someone else wants us to be. Perhaps comparison is leading you away from yourself. Maybe it is financial pressures or deep-seated insecurities or past failures that are overly influencing your present decisions. We need to recognize these things in our lives before we can begin the courageous work of moving forward." He says, "Try this: Take some notes for an entire day on how you are spending time between the big projects or commitments in your life. Don’t just write down 'I worked on writing my paper today' or 'I spent the day preparing for my weekend trip.' Write

“Small things become big things.”

A thought by Bob Goff, from his book, Dream Big (Kindle Locations 1228). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) This sounds great. A Mustard Tree Bob says, “Jesus told His friends nothing less. He talked about mustard seeds and said they were the smallest kind of seed. The fact is, they’re not. Because I’m a lawyer, I checked. The smallest seed in the world is a Peruvian orchid. It weighs less than one twenty-four millionths of an ounce. The story isn’t about the seed though; it’s about the tree it grows into and the rest it gives to those who need it most. I’ve done a couple of big things but a lot more small ones. You have too. God can use both, I suppose, but I think He delights in the small stuff a lot more. “Other than my kidneys being permanently shot, I’m just fine after getting malaria. I’ve crossed kidneys off of my donor card. They’re just no good anymore. I’m trying to grow a strong heart to make

“Community doesn’t always have to feel this heavy. It can be beautiful.”

A thought by Bob Goff, from his book, Dream Big (Kindle Locations 1184). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) It really can! Bob says, “I try to find reminders about the power we can experience together everywhere. When we’re in Canada, we see thousands of sea otters drifting along on the top of the water in the inlet. They’re everywhere—kind of like Priuses. Did you know sea otters hold hands while they’re floating? It looks a lot like they’re going out on dates with each other. After seeing so many sea otter couples drifting two by two through the water, I figured there had to be some reason for the hand holding. I dug a little deeper and it turns out the answer is simple: they don’t want anyone to drift away. He goes on, “As you pursue your ambitions, you’re going to need some hands to hold and some friends to love so you don’t drift off into the open waters. In other words, you’re going to need a community

“Jesus didn’t hide from people.”

A thought by Bob Goff, from his book, Dream Big (Kindle Locations 1128-1129). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) He didn’t and He still doesn’t even during this time that we are in. Bog says, “He didn’t have any middlemen, and perhaps you shouldn’t either. Sure, He spent time alone, but it wasn’t long before everyone showed up. He didn’t have someone vetting everyone who came His way either. I have a couple of friends who put loads of barriers between themselves and everyone else under the banner of efficiency. That’s fine, I suppose, if that is the messaging you want to release into the world. But what is efficient isn’t always effective. The people you spend time with will play the largest part in the ambitions you achieve, not the minutes you saved each day by avoiding them. Be available. Talk to everyone. Become their student, not their teacher. Love’s goal isn’t ever efficiency; it’s presence.” He goes o

“As you identify and pursue your ambitions, don’t be alarmed or discouraged when things get uncomfortable.”

A thought by Bob Goff, from his book, Dream Big (Kindle Locations 1030-1031). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) That is a part of the process of pursuing. Bob says, “The truth is, you’re probably going to need to make a couple of easy things uncomfortable. If you’re going to live fully awake and full of anticipation, you need to spot those areas in your current life where you’ve slipped into numbing routines that are putting you to sleep. “Perhaps the routines that once brought some positive rhythms to your day have become a bland, enslaving drumbeat. Here are some telltale signs. Maybe you have become generally dissatisfied and listless. Perhaps you’re short with the people you love or respond to small inconveniences with disproportionate annoyance. If this is you, you’ve got three choices: wake up, chill out, or get a puppy. You can have ours. If you want to press through the resistance you’re facing, you

“There are thirty-seven recorded miracles in the New Testament.”

A thought by Bob Goff, from his book, Dream Big (Kindle Locations 1015). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) Fantastic! Bob says, “One of my personal practices is to memorize each of them. Try it sometime. It will bring tremendous focus to your day and meaning to your interactions, and it will amplify your faith. Here’s how to do it. Almost everyone knows the first miracle Jesus did, right? There was a wedding celebration and they ran out of wine. Jesus took some jars of water, turned them into wine, and the party kept going. What I’ve been looking at aren’t just the miracles, but what was happening around the miracles. At the wedding, Mary leaned over to the host after he spoke to Jesus and whispered, ‘Do whatever he tells you.’ This is my hope for you as you pursue your ambitions. Whether faith is important to you or not, whether you talk to Jesus all the time or almost never, I hope you will take the ideas in t

“The painful truth is that a form of sleepwalking may be getting in the way of your ambitions.”

A thought by Bob Goff, from his book, Dream Big (Kindle Locations 1007-1008). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) Could that be you and me? Bob goes on, “Actually, it’s more sinister than that. It’s not stopping you on the way to the starting line; it’s keeping you from even getting your jersey and running shoes on. The fix is as simple as it is hard. We need to wake up. This is going to take more than just smelling the coffee. It means getting out of bed, planting some coffee trees, having some patience, picking the beans, doing the roasting, and grinding them into something more useful.” He then says, “Take the next step. Don’t just look awake; come alive to who God has made you to be. Practice walking around fully awake to yourself. Take notes, sing songs, laugh a lot, smell the flowers, roll on the grass, write the letter, take the class, make the call. You’re not doing this just for fun; it’s one of your f

“You might think that hate is the enemy of love.”

A thought by Bob Goff, from his book, Dream Big (Kindle Locations 915). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) Let’s see what Bob says. He says, “It’s not. Hate is merely the opposite of love, but not its enemy. Hate only has as much power as we give it. Love works the same way. It’s fear that stops love in its tracks every time. If you think about it for a moment, most of what we do is motivated by either love or fear. The trick is to figure out which one is doing the talking at any particular point in time. As we’re figuring out our ambitions, we need to figure out what’s been controlling our lives.” He goes on, “That can be confusing, though, because the voices behind these competing influences of reflection and reaction sound a lot like us. Because they are us. If we take the time to listen a little closer and with some discernment, we might find out that some of the ideas holding us back didn’t actually or

“It doesn’t matter who you were; God cares about who you are becoming.”

A thought by Bob Goff, from his book, Dream Big (Kindle Locations 891-892). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) He really does care! Bob says, “I didn’t grow up in the Church, and while I speak at quite a few faith gatherings, one thing I’ve found to be true is that people don’t grow where they are merely informed; they grow where they are fully accepted. Before we go any further, let me get this out on the table where we can talk about it. You are loved and accepted. One hundred percent. No qualifications. No prerequisites. You can’t be good enough, smart enough, or nice enough to be loved by God. He decided He would love you before you decided you were interested in loving Him back. Even if God is no big deal for you, your life is a big deal to Him. You are some of His most creative work ever. Pursuing your ambitions needs to start from a position of acceptance, not compliance. Compliance only lasts until you de