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"And acceptance is a first step toward influence."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 188). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) That is so very important. Kyle says, "When God puts people in your life, there may be things that separate you. You might know something about them or their past that tempts you to look down on the person. Jesus never did that, and looking down on someone never leads them to Jesus. No one has ever been judged into faith." He then says, "God told us to 'accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you.' (Rom. 15:7) Jesus accepted you despite of all your sin. You need to accept others just as Jesus accepted you. If you do so, you might just help them to accept Jesus." And that is a very good thing to do, isn't it? Yes, yes! #continuethought

"I was sitting at a Broadway play."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 185). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) Kyle continues, "At halftime (though I think they call it intermission), I stood up for the seventh-inning stretch (also pretty sure that’s the wrong term). The man sitting next to me also stood, and we struck up a conversation. He told me he was with his daughter, celebrating her graduation from high school. I told him we were out celebrating our ninth wedding anniversary. He asked if we had children. I told him we had three daughters, ages six, four, and three. "He smiled, gestured to his teenage daughter, and said, 'I remember when she was six.' "His tone was accepting and sweet. Then he asked me, very naturally and comfortably, 'Can I tell you what happened to me when she was six? It totally changed what kind of father I was.' "I nodded yes.  "He said, 'Well, I worked cons

"There was a Roman soldier, a centurion, who was responsible for crucifying Jesus."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 174). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) Now that would be a hard person to love. Kyle says, "He was the one who took Jesus’s hands and nailed them to the cross. This centurion was the last person Jesus touched before he died. This centurion was the person most directly responsible for Jesus’s death. Who could be harder to love than him? "Yet on the cross Jesus looked at this man, then looked up to heaven and asked God to forgive him (see Luke 23:34). Kyle continues, "When Jesus died, the centurion recognized and proclaimed that Jesus was the Son of God (see Mark 15:39). He realized he had just killed the innocent Son of God. What did he need from Jesus in that moment? He needed forgiveness, and Jesus had already given it to him." He then said, "C. S. Lewis wrote, “To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgi

"Your world was created by the power of words."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 150). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) That is so very true. Kyle continues, "You’ve had people who spoke lifegiving words to you, who helped you believe in God, in yourself, in the possibility of change. Those words built you up and created the positive things you appreciate about your life today." He also said, "You’ve also probably had some words spoken to you that felt like death and have stayed with you ever since. I asked my Facebook friends to give examples of words that were tattooed on their souls and shaped their lives in a negative way. Within minutes I received responses like, 'No one will ever want to be with you,' 'You’re damaged goods,' 'You are irresponsible,' 'You’re just not smart enough,' 'I wish you were never born,' 'I’m just not attracted to you anymore,' 'You lost the ga

"Some of the people in our church threw a party in a parking lot."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 138). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) How can we make a difference through a party? Kyle continues, "Maybe this doesn’t seem like the best ambiance for a party, but it’s a lot where people park their cars and then get on a bus that takes them to their workplace in the city. People park in this lot early in the morning, so instead of hors d’oeuvres the party refreshments were muffins and juice. The party throwers cranked music and put out games people could play as they waited for the bus." He says, "One woman who was walking toward the bus from her car was obviously distressed. A few volunteers asked if they could give her some snacks for the road. "She declined, then stopped and asked, 'Are you from a church?' "When they said yes, she asked, 'Would you . . . would you please pray for my family? We just found out last nig

"Jesus was invited to parties."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 128). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) That is a very interesting thought. Kyle continues, "It says something that people wanted him at their parties. For instance, in John 2 we read of a wedding party and we’re told, 'Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding' (v. 2). "Doesn’t that seem a little weird? If you didn’t know anything about Jesus or the Bible, and someone told you that God came to earth and lived a human life, would you expect this God-human to be invited to parties?" He goes on, "I might guess that people would be like, 'Don’t invite the God-human. He’ll be walking around with his good/bad checklist on a clipboard, spying around corners, shaking his head in disapproving ways. It’s a hard no to inviting the God-human.' "But that’s not what happened. Jesus was invited to parties. Someone

"Let’s say someone asked you to describe God’s will."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 126). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) What would you say? Kyle says, "Perhaps 'Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus' (1 Thess. 5:16–18 NLT)?" He continues, "This might not be what you expect, but God tells us his will includes joy. Always. "When the angels announced the birth of Jesus, their message was, 'Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people' (Luke 2:10). "Jesus came to bring great joy . "Jesus came to bring his joy and fill us with it. He said, 'These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full' (John 15:11 ESV)." He goes on, "God’s will, the Good News of Jesus, is about joy. Yet listen to how someone once describ

Compassion doesn’t equal condoning."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 117). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) And there is a difference. Kyle says, "If you show someone compassion and they confuse that as condoning, that is a mistake on their part because the two are not the same. Jesus did not condemn the woman (caught in adultery) but did tell her to go and sin no more." He continues, "We aren’t telling people, 'God loves you just the way you are, so keep doing what you’re doing.' I’ve heard the message of God’s love summed up this way: 'God loves you just the way you are, but he loves you too much to leave you that way.' "Accepting a sinner is not accepting their sin, but some people probably will take it that way. And? I think it’s worth the risk. How do I know that? Because it is a risk God is willing to take. "God’s grace is so amazing, so outlandish, that some people do mistake

"Question: Has condemning a person ever changed that person?"

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 106). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) That is a very good question, isn't it? Kyle continues, "It’s a significant question. Have you ever met someone who told you, 'Well, I was always this certain way, but then I met this hate-filled person who made me feel condemned, and that’s when my whole life changed!' "No, you haven’t. Me neither."  He goes on, "Another question: Has feeling condemned ever helped you to change? Has condemnation ever led you to transformation? I bet not, because that’s not the way it works. Romans 2:4 says it’s kindness that leads us to repentance. "Angrily pointing out a person’s sins doesn’t lead them out of those sins. Don’t confuse your bitterness and hatred with showing tough love. Loathing doesn’t lead to life change. "In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus talked about how we are to treat oth

"I get sensitive and angry, because force implies someone is trying to control me."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 94). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) Here is what Kyle is talking about. He continues, "There was this law back then that Roman soldiers could force civilians into acts of service, but there were limitations. A Roman soldier could force a Jew to carry his pack for one mile, but not any farther. The Jewish person didn’t have an option, so they’d pick up the pack and carry it a mile, but not another step. They couldn’t be forced into a second mile. "Roman soldiers were the enemy. They treated Jewish people like dogs. So, imagine this scenario: a Jewish man is coming home from work. He’s tired and hungry and just wants to get home in time for a little SportsCenter before going to bed. He sees a soldier on the side of the road. Oh, great. This is the last thing he needs. "The Jewish man is angry and upset every step of the way. As soon as he hits

"I grew up believing there were certain times that were right for prayer."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 71). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.)  Was that true for you? Kyle continues, "Before meals and at bedtime, of course, and praying at church was also a thing. Also heaving up a desperate Hail Mary prayer before a test you didn’t study for was deemed appropriate." He says, "But Jesus’s disciples were 'constantly' united in prayer, and we are encouraged to 'pray without ceasing' (1 Thess. 5:17 ESV) and to 'pray at all times' (Eph. 6:18 CSB)." "There is a right time to pray—and it is now . "Prayer is an expression of our dependence on Jesus, and we’re always dependent on Jesus, so we always need to be praying. It’s a constant connection where we are continually available." He goes on, "I was also taught there was a right way to pray: head bowed and eyes closed. In fact, in our family, if your head

"... what emotion would best describe how you feel right now?"

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 68). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) That is a good question. Kyle continues, "Depending on the research you look at, there are anywhere from six to thirty-four thousand emotions you can experience. I won’t list all thirty-four thousand here. You probably don’t need a list to narrow down how you feel most of the time, anyway. If you’re not sure about your emotional state, ask a few of the people you do life with. If they look at you like they’re afraid to answer, then irritable or temperamental may be the diagnosis." He goes on, "I decided to read through the Gospels to try to determine if there was a primary emotion Jesus felt. He is described as experiencing exhaustion, joy, anger, frustration, disgust, grief, loneliness, rejection, and dread. But the one emotion attributed to Jesus more than any other is compassion . "Most of our em

"Your willingness to risk is always based on the potential reward."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 65). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) That is so true. Kyle said, "For instance, you wouldn’t run into a burning house. Why? It’s a risk, and your fear of taking that risk would be too great. But you would run into a burning house if your child was inside it. Why? It’s the same risk and would induce the same fear, but you’d do it because the potential return—saving your child—is worth it." He continues, "Too often we avoid getting close to someone far from God and stay away from draining, difficult, and different people because there is risk. We might be rejected. We could look stupid. We may not be able to answer their questions. "When we stare at the risk, we are stopped by our fear. But we can stare down the risk by staring at the potential return." He goes on, "Each person we find ourselves in close proximity with is a child

"I recently read a story in which Mother Teresa was in Australia..."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 38). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) Mother Teresa understood what this is all about. Kyle says, "Mother Teresa spent most of her life ministering to the poor and suffering in the slums of Calcutta. I’ve heard dozens of Mother Teresa stories over the years, and she seemed to always see the person in need and know what to do to meet that need." He continues, "I recently read a story in which Mother Teresa was in Australia and came across an elderly Aborigine man who lived in absolute squalor. Mother Teresa wrote, 'I can assure you that you have never seen a situation as difficult as that poor old man’s.' 1 "I imagine myself in that situation, and I’m pretty sure I would feel incapable of helping. But Mother Teresa? She told the man she was going to clean his house, wash his clothes, and make his bed. He said no, but her insistence

"Most of us regularly have those I need to do something moments."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 36). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) That is true, isn't it? Kyle continues, "We feel compelled to make a difference—but how? "After enough moments of feeling like we should do something but not knowing what to do, we learn to silence that voice. I need to do something gets replaced with Somebody should do something . It’s not that we don’t want to do something, it’s just that we don’t know what to do." He goes on, "For a long time when I felt compelled to do something, I would pray, God, what do you want to do through me? "What I have learned along the way is that often my first prayer should be, God, what do you want to do in me? "Because the work God does in you will lead to the work God wants to do through you. This radically changes our approach to being difference-makers. As much as I might want to skip the in an

"Jesus did life with a zoom lens."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book,  One at a Time  (p. 25). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) Kyle continues, "When someone stood in front of Jesus, time stopped. Everything else in his life—all his concerns, his agenda, his goals—blurred and disappeared. He was always fully present. "One at a time is the Jesus way of changing the world." Kyle goes on, "If you took a course in psychology, you’ve probably seen the 'Spot the Gorilla' video. Six people stand in a circle. Three are in white shirts, three in black. Two hold basketballs. You’re asked to watch a one-minute video and keep track of how many times the basketball is passed by the people in white shirts. The six people start moving about and passing the balls. In the middle of the video, a gorilla walks into the crowd of six people, faces the camera, thumps his chest, then steps off screen. The gorilla is in the video for nine seco

"We want to make a difference, but there are so many opinions on the way to do that."

A thought by Kyle Idleman, from his book, One at a Time (p. 12). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.) I know that a lot of people really want to make a difference and maybe you are one of them. Kyle says, "We’re drowning in content that tells us how to make an impact with our lives. I’ve read the books, researched the articles, listened to the podcasts, and attended the conferences. I’ve taken notes as I’ve studied the autobiographies of difference-makers, trying to understand how they did it. What were their routines? Their habits? Their best practices? "We’ve never had more access to inspiring and helpful content to help us become people with greater impact and influence, and yet it seems that more people than ever feel like that’s not happening in their lives." And that is so true. He continues, "Maybe there’s another way to make a difference, and we’re just missing it. "I wrote this book becaus

“This lie says you’re not qualified or capable.”

A thought by Kyle Idleman from his book, Don't Give Up (p. 126). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) Kyle says, “It’s interesting, and may be helpful to know, that research indicates that both men and women struggle with feelings of inadequacy, though in different ways. Women tend to blame themselves, assuming they don’t have what it takes. Men typically blame their circumstances, believing that someone or something else is at fault. We can all buy into the you-don’t-have-what-it-takes lie. “This is an easy lie to believe because there are so many opportunities to compare ourselves nowadays. Everyone puts the best version of themselves on social media. I’m trying to get a petition started that changes the name of Facebook to Façade and Instagram to Mirage. Maybe then we wouldn’t look at these airbrushed versions of people’s lives and feel so insecure. We compare our normal lives with the highlights of an

“Most of us believe lies.”

A thought by Kyle Idleman from his book, Don't Give Up (p. 124). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) Do we really believe lies? Kyle says, “We don’t know they’re lies. If we knew they were lies, we wouldn’t believe them.” He goes on, “Because we believe lies, we live our lives by them, right? If you believe swimming within thirty minutes of eating is dangerous, you won’t do it. And that gives the lie the same power over you as if it were truth. For centuries, people believed the lie that the earth was flat. Because they believed that lie, they wouldn’t go too far out in the ocean; they didn’t want to fall off the edge. “When you believe a lie, it changes the way you live. “It’s obviously not a big deal if you’ve spent your life avoiding swimming after eating or swallowing chewing gum. But what if you believe more significant lies that have more serious implications?” He continues, “It